Himself:
Sent in report. Back to work
after the gym.
Herself:
Back to work….ya know, that does sound good. Take Grumpy to the body shop today too?
Reading:
Just finished the first of the Reporter Ali mysteries from JA Jance. Well written.
Very sad how all her latest have gone downhill.
Balance:
Listening to a very scrappy
speaker last night who spoke of the past in the present. Riveting.
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Nothing deters the J2’s.
They drove off to get their youngest son, a large strapping young man
named Ted, who clambered over the fence and fended off the dog.
Dolly finally realized that someone had been banging on her
back door, let Ted and the J’s in. She
didn’t know what the date was, she was very disjointed, and she didn’t realize
anything was wrong much less that she had missed dinner with the Feasters. The J’s finally got a neighbor’s phone number
out of her, one who is on vacation, but not that of a doctor or one of her
kids.
G reminded me that I had suggested two months ago that she
go see her doctor. She didn’t. I don’t think she is able to. Is it a med.
We don’t know.
There is a Senior Abuse hot line here in our city, but what
do you do when the Senior doggedly refuses to leave her home. One of the Jay’s will phone the hot line today
and ask about the protocol.
My mother was descending into dementia, but she had a
husband who babysat her. She died before
needing a nursing home. Both G’s mom and
dad were all there when they died. We
only realized late that Duck was in trouble when he fell, and after a brief
hospitalization we let him return home with supervision. This didn’t work out, but we tried. Dolly is unknowingly in deep trouble and none
of us know what to do.
That's very sad. It's harder when no one has been overseeing the problem. My friend Gloria (the 91-year-old Geezerette) has just been moved to a senior facility by the guy with her power of attorney. It has taken about 20 years to get her there.
ReplyDeleteMy husband's dementia is not as troublesome as his COPD, but the nursing home staff often treat him as if he's not there. That's why my daughter visits him regularly and I phone the nurses or the social worker.
There have been occasions of people assuming it's dementia when they don't know he's hard of hearing.
That's a hard one. I am so sorry for everyone involved here. Holding you in my thoughts, sweetie.
ReplyDeleteThis is a tough call. I remember my grandmother who failed to know me when I visited her. Her second husband stayed with her as long as he could, but when he died, she was put in a nursing home by my aunt. She live to her mid ninties.
ReplyDeleteHow awful. My mom has dementia, not alzheimer's, but my sister lives with her at Mom's house and cares for her. I would love to stay at my home until death, rather than live in a nursing home, if I were incapacitated.
ReplyDeleteThese situations are never easy. Most of the time they don't get help until a crisis arises and it look's like Dolly's crisis has arrived. I'll be interesting in knowing what kind of help she gets. You're a good person Charlie Brown. Keep that caring side of your personality polished. It shines bright.
ReplyDeleteWith many people never having children and others living lives greatly removed from busy self-absorbed children, this is going to be more common among us baby-boomers as we age. There must be some rules or protocol, maybe "Time Goes By" has an entry on this?
ReplyDeleteIt's a sad situation when you have to fight with the person in need to give them some quality of life. I hope you can find a way to assist her that she will be happy with...Good luck to all of you and your caring friends.
ReplyDeleteWhat a tough situation. I'm glad she has friends like you that will try. Perhaps Social Services has come advice?
ReplyDeleteWe had the same problem with a neighbor and actually had to find a relative to come and pick her up. It was so sad. You are very kind to try to think of a way to help. It's a hard situation. Sometimes there's a city hotline where a social worker can come to help.
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